Tea Party Ideas for Kids

Make an ordinary day memorable by having a Tea Party for the special little ones in your life! I’ve compiled the Ultimate Guide to Tea Party Ideas for Kids with step-by-step ideas and recipes to help you make it happen!

Years ago when I was in a Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) group, one of my friends in the group mentioned that she hosted tea parties for her daughters. This was very intriguing to me, so I asked a bunch of questions. I loved the idea so much I decided to try it with my girls. I included my nephews because I thought they would like it too.

We have since had many tea parties, some at my house, some at my sister’s. The kids absolutely love these tea parties! Building family traditions has always been very important to me because I grew up with an extended family with very strong traditions. I think having that sense of dependability is very important to children, so I strive to create and reinforce traditions with my kids.

Cucumber Rye Bread Sandwiches and Chicken Salad Croissants

In the same way that vacations create family memories by breaking up the everyday and providing an impressionable moment in time for your children, so do tea parties. My girls still talk about tea parties we had years ago, and they often remember more than I do about them!

I thought this post might be most topical now, when many of us are home a bit more, when many planned vacations have been canceled, and when our kids’ activities are being reduced, postponed, or canceled altogether. I think many parents are facing a summer of “what the #@%* are we going to do?!” Sure, you may have plans to pull out the inflatable pool or hit up a park, but what if it rains? Having a few indoor activities planned can help break up the boredom and the urge to hand your kids the iPads.

In fact, on my last grocery trip before lockdown I grabbed some St. Patrick’s mini desserts in anticipation of a very boring spring break. We had our St. Patrick’s Day Tea Party in Quarantine- and it was Bob’s first tea party with us! 

St. Patrick's Day Tea Party
Store bought St. Patrick’s Day mini cupcakes and PB&J sandwiches.

Tea Parties are NOT just for girls!

Break out of those gender stereotypes! My nephews enjoy tea parties just as much as my daughters. Perhaps it’s their young age, but even if your boys are a little older, you can take the tea party concept and call it something else so they don’t refuse to attend 🙂 Are they really going to turn down desserts?!

Planning a Tea Party

I’ve outlined a few steps that I take when I throw a tea party to make it a little easier to get started. So let’s take a look.

Decide on a theme

I typically let the season dictate the theme of the tea parties I’ve thrown. The first tea party I had was simply a “Summer Tea Party.” We’ve also done a “Fall Tea Party,” a “Christmas Tea Party,” a “Valentine Tea Party,” a “St. Patrick’s Day Tea Party,” an “Easter Tea Party,” and so on. We’re very creative . . .

Pictured clockwise starting from upper left: Bailey’s Irish Cream Mini Cheesecakes, Easy Homemade Cream Puffs, fruit rainbow with pot of gold, pound cake sandwiches.

Rather than focusing on a season, a kid-themed tea party would be super cute. I can imagine a Unicorn Tea Party, a Disney Tea Party, a Princess Tea Party, and many more. It may depend on the age group of the children you’re hosting the tea party for and what their specific interests are.

Develop a menu

Tea Party menu, Jalapeno Popper Puff Pastry Pinwheels, Turkey and Ham Tortilla Pinwheels
Painted Rainbow Cookies
Painted Rainbow Cookies are the perfect St. Patrick's Day Cookies! The edible paint and gold luster dust can be applied to royal icing or egg free icing. These hand painted cookies fit any rainbow themed event!
Check out this recipe
Painted Rainbow Cookies St. Patrick's Day Cookies

I will be sharing recipes to make homemade food and drinks, but depending on the time of year or what we had going on, I definitely have taken advantage of store bought items to fill in. You’ll notice from my past tea party pictures that I often have a combination of homemade and store bought desserts. You do not need to be a baker to host a tea party! In fact, all of the desserts from this Fall Tea Party were purchased at Trader Joe’s and a local grocery store! Some of my favorite little brownie bites from that store are topped with edible, seasonal decorations – for fall they had little pumpkins on top and for Christmas little gingerbread people.

fall tea party kids tea party
Apple cider and tea, little brownie bites decorated with edible pumpkins from Dierberg’s and mini pumpkin cakes from Trader Joe’s, fruit in cupcake liners.

You can even dress up a homemade dessert with a premade item, like my sister did with these Sugar Roses on her homemade brownie bites.

brownie bites small glazed shortbread cookies
Sugar Roses on homemade brownie bites, bite sized Iced Shortbread Cookies.
Iced Vanilla Shortbread Cookies
Iced Vanilla Shortbread Cookies are egg free, nut cookies with an easy glaze that can be colored or painted to fit any occasion. A quick egg free icing that is so much easier and faster than royal icing but can be decorated in so many ways. These mini cookies are perfect for tea parties!
Check out this recipe
iced vanilla shortbread collage
Christmas tea party for kids, onion tartlets
Top: caramelized onion and apple puff pastry tartlets; middle: ham & cheese and turkey & cheese sandwiches; bottom: store bought brownie bites and Lofthouse style cookies from Dierberg’s.

We usually do a featured drink, scones or biscuits, little sandwiches or savory bites, and desserts.


It’s a tea party so you have to have tea, right? Not necessarily. We usually pick a kid friendly drink that goes with the theme. We’ve done a Strawberry Tea Punch (which has a small amount of decaf tea) or lemonade in the warmer months, Fancy Hot Chocolate in the cooler months, and Shamrock Shakes for St. Patrick’s Day.

Strawberry Tea Punch (recipe coming soon!)
Oreo Shamrock Shakes
Oreo Shamrock Shakes are a homemade version of the minty St. Patrick's Day shake that isn't overly sweet. Great for a St. Patrick's Day Tea Party! Gluten free Shamrock Shake option.
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Oreo Shamrock Shakes in glasses

My kids don’t get juice on a daily basis, so they get excited for even plain lemonade, but there are endless possibilities of punch recipes (of all colors!) out there. My all time favorite punch being our Christmas Punch, which you can serve any time of year it’s just that we happen to make it on Christmas Eve! I also love the punch we have at our annual Halloween Party, the Witches Brew Punch.

Witches Brew Punch
Witches Brew Punch is just 3 ingredients, with the option to include rum for adults. It's the perfect drink for your Halloween celebration!
Check out this recipe
witches brew punch halloween punch in a glass
Pink Citrus Punch
Called Christmas Punch in our family, a delicious festive punch with the flavors of orange, pineapple, lemon, and cherry. It's perfect for the holidays or any special occasion.
Check out this recipe
Pink Citrus Punch
Homemade Oreo Shamrock Shakes with whipped cream, Airheads Xtremes rainbow and gold sprinkles for St. Patrick’s Day Tea Parties.
cup with whipped cream and Valentine's sprinkles
Fancy Hot Chocolate with whipped cream and Valentine’s Day sprinkles
Fancy Hot Chocolate
Fancy Hot Chocolate is a rich, creamy hot cocoa poured over a lacy chocolate decoration into a cup. It is the ultimate hot chocolate for a tea party or special brunch or luncheon.
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Fancy Hot Chocolate in a holiday tea cup


Scones are the quintessential tea party food. Nothing exudes “British Tea Party” more than a good scone. I try to include scones at each tea party. Once I did Cheddar Bay Biscuits, but just about every other tea party has included scones. I usually choose a sweet scone like Classic Cream Scones but have also made Cheddar Dill Scones as well. The same MOPS friend who told me about the tea party concept recommended her mini scone pan, and I just love it! This pan makes 16 mini scones from a typical batch. These mini scones are the perfect size for a tea party, especially when there will be desserts as well.

Cheddar Bay Biscuits
Warm biscuits with cheddar, Parmesan, and chives. Arguably better than the version at Red Lobster!
Check out this recipe
cheddar bay biscuits
classic cream scones
Top: Classic Cream Scones; bottom: Cucumber Rye Sandwiches (recipes coming soon!)
Classic Cream Scones
These British-inspired Classic Cream Scones contain currents and are the perfect biscuit-like, slightly sweet treat.
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classic cream scones


Tea sandwiches – Any kind of sandwich cut into small pieces will do. I sometimes use cookie cutters to make the sandwich into a specific shape, like a leaf for Fall. I have also used a cookie cutter on just the top piece of bread so that the filling is showing through the cut out, like a heart for Valentine’s Day in a cream cheese and jam sandwich or a PB&J. We’ve also done warm paninis cut into smaller pieces.

rye bread sandwich leaf shape tea party
Herbed cream cheese on rye sandwich cut with leaf cookie cutter.

Even something simple like peanut butter on toast or grilled cheese cut with a cookie cutter can be fun!

Tea Party Ideas for Kids peanut butter toast cut into heart shapes
Tea Party Ideas for Kids Grilled Cheese cut into heart shapes on a plate
Valentine's Day Tea Party
Painted Watercolor Cookies, plain popcorn, Peanut Butter & Jelly heart sandwiches, red seedless grapes

For our most recent Quarantine St. Patrick’s Day Tea Party, I kept it super simple and just had peanut butter & jelly sandwiches cut into triangles. We didn’t even cut off the crust – no need to waste bread at a time like this! Except on the sandwich for my youngest, who refuses to eat crust . . .

For Christmas Tea Parties I’ve served these Turkey and Cranberry Tea Party Sandwiches. The colors are so festive, and would work for Valentine’s Day too.

Turkey Cranberry Tea Party Sandwiches
Turkey Cranberry Tea Party Sandwiches are a delicious addition to a holiday tea party or lunch. With green spinach leaves and red dried cranberries in a cream cheese spread, the festive colors go perfectly with a Christmas theme.
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Turkey and Cranberry Tea Party Sandwiches

Small bites – we’ve done phyllo cups filled with chicken salad, spinach artichoke filling, or caramelized onions, big pieces of puff pastry tarts cut into small pieces, mini quiche, tartlets, and warm appetizers. Pretty much any appetizer that can be made into a smaller portion is perfect for a tea party.

Benedictine Dip on Pumpernickel, Cheddar Dill Scone, Summer Poppy Seed Salad, Chicken Salad Croissant, Spinach Artichoke Phyllo cup
Cheddar Dill Scones
A savory scone that's perfect as a side for soup or salad.
Check out this recipe
cheddar dill scones

Snack items – consider serving small crackers, pretzels, or popcorn if you think your kids may not like the appetizer-type food. Goldfish crackers, pretzel Goldfish, or popcorn can easily be served in a paper cupcake liner for a cute presentation.

kid tea party goldfish fruit shamrock shakes
Goldfish in paper cupcake liner.


Our tea parties ALWAYS include fruit. My kids love it, and it’s easy to make it cute and themed. We’ve done fruit cups in little plastic containers, fruit in aluminum cupcake liners, fruit kabobs (like these adorable Grinch kabobs on mini bamboo skewers), and themed fruit trays. If you’re in a rush, a bowl of seedless grapes will do just fine!

Fruit in aluminum cupcake liners.
Grinch Fruit Kabobs
Top left: store bought brownie bites, Easy Homemade Cream Puffs, Nut Free Linzer Cookies, chicken salad phyllo cups, and cream cheese & jam sandwiches; top right: inside cut outs of Linzer Cookies with sprinkles; bottom left: Valentine fruit platter; bottom right: Fancy Hot Chocolate with whipped cream and sprinkles.
Tea Party Ideas for Kids Fruit Rainbow Skewers for St. Patrick's Day
St. Patrick’s Day Rainbow Fruit Kabobs platter made by my sister


Most tea parties have at least 2 small dessert offerings. I try to have 2 – 3, not including the scones which may be sweet and sometimes the “drink” is also a dessert – such as Pink Citrus Sherbet Punch, hot chocolate, or Shamrock Shakes in the case of our St. Patrick’s Day Tea Parties.

Some ideas for small desserts include mini cheesecakes, cookies, cupcakes, brownies, and mini cream puffs.

Bailey’s Irish Cream Mini Cheesecakes
Bite sized Bailey's Irish Cream Mini Cheesecakes have an Oreo sandwich cookie crust (or gluten free cookies) and a chocolate ganache glaze.
Check out this recipe
baileys Irish cream mini cheesecakes
Mini Red Velvet Cheesecakes
Mini Red Velvet Cheesecakes have chocolate cookie crust and red velvet cheesecake filling with a cream cheese topping. Gluten free option and instructions for how to make chocolate heart decorations. Cute and festive for the holidays or Valentine's Day!
Check out this recipe
Mini Red Velvet Cheesecakes square
Oyster Pearl Cookies
Adorable Oyster Pearl Cookies fit any Under the Sea or Ocean Themed Party. Delicious Easy Vanilla Buttercream piped onto Nilla Wafers with a pretty shimmer chocolate Sixlets candy pearl inside.
Check out this recipe
seashell cookies / oyster shell cookies
baby bluebird cupcakes
Baby Bluebird Cupcakes
Baby Bluebird Cupcakes
These adorable cupcakes will make anyone smile! With a delicious toasted coconut nest and your favorite cupcake underneath, they are a crowd pleaser.
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baby bluebird cupcakes
[Not My] Granny’s Sugar Cookies and Easy Homemade Cream Puffs decorated with Wilton Edible Glitter Gold Stars.
[Not My] Granny’s Sugar Cookies
A fun yet easy way to make decorate sugar cookies for Fall! This family favorite sugar cookie recipe is always a hit.
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a pile of Fall Leaf Sugar Cookies

Easy Homemade Cream Puffs
My family's most famous recipe, these Cream Puffs are quick compared to other recipes, but are sure to be a hit!
Check out this recipe
easy homemade cream puffs
Nut Free Linzer Cookies made with Linzer cookie cutter set, Chewy Oatmeal Cookies, and Chocolate Covered Cherry Cookies.
Dark Chocolate Covered Cherry Cookies
A chocolate cookie with a maraschino cherry on top, covered with a cherry chocolate topping.
Check out this recipe
dark chocolate covered cherry cookies on a white plate
Nut Free Linzer Cookies
Nut Free Linzer Cookies are jam filled crispy shortbread sandwich cookies dusted with powdered sugar and great for Christmas or Valentine's Day. Nut and egg allergy safe.
Check out this recipe
Nut Free Linzer Cookies square picture
Chewy Oatmeal Cookies
The BEST Chewy Oatmeal Cookie ever! This family recipe is a great basic oatmeal cookie that can be customized with raisins, craisins, nuts, chocolate chips, or whatever you'd like.
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Chewy Oatmeal Cookies


We usually dress up a little for tea parties. My girls ask to wear fancy dresses and sometimes jewelry. My nephews come in the most adorable little outfits- sweater vests, bow ties, the works. It’s a fun chance to get to dress up a little fancier than you normally would for lunch at a friend’s house.

My youngest’s First Tea Party when she was 2 months old!
Same child at the most recent tea party wearing her pearls.

Decorations and Place Settings

Tea Parties are my excuse to break out my cloth tablecloths and fancy dishes. If you have fine China, now is a good time to use it! Even if you don’t trust your toddler with fragile plates, you can use the China for serving platters or only give China to the adults and give the young kids paper or plastic plates. Once each of my older girls turned 5, I started letting them use the China plates. It depends on the personality of the kid though because I don’t envision giving my 4 year old China anytime soon! 

Cloth linens are certainly not required for a tea party. A colorful disposable tablecloth and cute paper plates and napkins will work perfectly! In fact, some stores even sell the most adorable paper tea cups with handles and paper plates. They are a little pricey but SO CUTE!

I like to use table cards on holidays when we are sitting in the dining room so everyone knows where to sit. It’s often a strategic placement of our kids in proximity to us so we can help them with their food, my Dad in an easier to access seat, my sister near her kids, etc. Normally I make table cards using my Silhouette, but a couple times at tea parties I’ve used a cookie to indicate the seating arrangement. I did this either by piping melted white chocolate onto a dark chocolate background with the Espresso Chocolate Chip Shortbread Cookies, or by using Edible Food Markers on Royal Icing and my go-to Sugar Cookies.

espresso chocolate chip shortbread cookie teabag shaped name card
Espresso Chocolate Chip Shortbread Cookies shaped like tea bags with bakers twine and printable tea label.
teapot sugar cookies name cards Christmas holly holiday
[Not My] Granny’s Sugar Cookies iced with Royal Icing and decorated with Edible Food Markers. See my Painted Watercolor Cookies for a tutorial on how to paint with gold luster dust.

These markers can also be used directly on Iced Vanilla Shortbread Cookies to write names. This avoids having to use royal icing! Full details are in my Painted Watercolor Cookies post.

Valentine's Day Tea Party
cookie that says "Ava" in calligraphy
Painted Watercolor Cookies
Painted Watercolor Cookies feature several techniques for painting cookies. Use either royal icing or a simple egg free icing for an easier, faster alternative to royal icing with no piping required! Instructions for how to apply edible paint for cookies and how to paint with luster dust, including gold luster dust. Easily make edible rose gold paint with this method. Simple guide for how to add handwritten calligraphy to cookies.
Check out this recipe

I like to use 3-tiered servers at tea parties. I sort of have a thing for 3-tiered servers . . . I have a basic white one, one I bought to match my grandma’s China, and I got this one three years ago for our Valentine Tea Party. It’s pink and gold and has little butterfly cut outs. I also have this clear acrylic one with a gold handle that is more neutral and goes with everything. If you don’t already have a 3-tiered server, consider using a cake plate, or just nice serving platters. I always break out my teapots as well. I’m guessing many people my age may not even own a teapot, but I have one to match each set of China I own. I suppose I’m an old soul in that regard.

3 tiered server, tea party sandwiches and desserts
Three-tiered Server. Top: store bought brownie bites; middle: Easy Homemade Cream Puffs, Nut Free Linzer Cookies; bottom: chicken salad phyllo cups, and cream cheese & jam sandwiches

Break the Rules

Just like at real Afternoon Tea, I serve all the food at the same time. So the rule of “if you finish your lunch, you get dessert” goes out the window. I don’t have any rules regarding eating on Tea Party days. If my 4 year old wants to eat a cookie and fruit and nothing else, that’s ok. It’s sort of my policy for holidays as well. I don’t stress if they don’t eat much food on Thanksgiving – they still get pie. It’s a special day, and the rules are different on special days (in my humble opinion).

Say Cheese!

Remember to take pictures of your kids at your tea party. I promise, you will look back on them and smile. In preparing this post, I looked back on 5 years of tea parties, and I’m so glad I have the pictures. Most importantly, I’m glad that my kids have the memories. They kept seeing photos pop up on the screen and would say things things like, “oh! I remember that! That was the BEST DAY EVER!” Then my 6 year old said, “Mommy, when I grow up I want to throw tea parties. Will you help me?” Melt my heart!

Tea Party Recipe Ideas

I’ve compiled suggestions from each category in list form below. Recipes labeled “coming soon” will be updated as the recipes are posted. Some items in the list, such as apple cider, are store bought, so no link is required. 🙂


Pink Citrus Punch {Christmas Punch}
Witches Brew Punch
Fancy Hot Chocolate with Homemade Marshmallows
Oreo Shamrock Shakes
Lemonade Tea
Apple Cider
Strawberry Tea Punch (coming soon!)


Cheddar Dill Scones
Cheddar Bay Biscuits
Classic Cream Scones
Chocolate Chip Scones
Skinny Chocolate Chip Scones
Pumpkin Scones
Dark Chocolate Cranberry Scones (coming soon!)


Turkey and Cranberry Tea Party Sandwiches
Chicken and Pumpkin Tart Appetizer
Tomato Tart
Bruschetta Grilled Cheese Sandwiches
Turkey Pastrami Reuben Sandwiches
Harvest Chicken Salad on croissants or in phyllo cups
Baked Southwestern Egg Rolls made mini
Caprese Salad Skewers
Prosciutto and Melon Bite Sized Appetizer
Bacon Stuffed Cherry Tomato Appetizers
Double Tomato Bruschetta
Whole Foods Copycat Spinach Artichoke Dip in phyllo cups
Cucumber Rye Sandwiches (coming soon!)
Benedictine Spread on Pumpernickel (coming soon!)
Tomato, Mozzarella & Basil Puff Pastry (coming soon!)
Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, cut into triangles
Jam and cream cheese sandwiches, cut into triangles
Mini Quiche


Iced Vanilla Shortbread Cookies
Painted Watercolor Cookies
Painted Rainbow Cookies
Mini Red Velvet Cheesecakes
Mini New York Cheesecakes
Bailey’s Irish Cream Mini Cheesecakes
Mini Hot Chocolate Cheesecakes
Mini Mocha Cheesecakes
Black Bottom Caramel Pumpkin Cheesecake Bites
Mini Pumpkin Cheesecakes
Mini Pina Colada Cheesecakes
Pumpkin Spice Magic Bar Minis
Red Velvet Brownies with Cheesecake Swirl
Oyster Pearl Cookies
Best Gooey French Brownies
Outrageous Brownies
Chewy and Fudgy Brownies
Cranberry Christmas Cake
Poppy Seed Bread
Pineapple Carrot Bread
Zucchini Bread
Mexican Chocolate Black Bottom Cupcakes
Easy Homemade Cream Puffs made mini
Santa’s Whiskers / Leprechaun Whiskers (same recipe but no red cherries)
Tres Leches Cupcakes with Dulce de Leche Buttercream
Baby Bluebird Cupcakes
Carrot Cupcakes
Espresso Chocolate Chip Cookies
Triple Chocolate Biscotti
[Not My] Granny’s Sugar Cookies
Browned Butter Sugar Cookies
Citrus Glazed Butter Cookies
Chocolate Butter Spritz Cookies
Chewy Oatmeal Cookies
Butter Cookies
Chocolate Covered Cherry Cookies
Coconut Macaroons
Soft Frosted Sugar Cookies
Stuffed Strawberries
Chocolate Covered Strawberries
Nut Free Linzer Cookies
Oatmeal Cream Pies (coming soon!)
Sugar Plum Jam Cookies (coming soon!)
Fruit Tartlets (any tart recipe and make in muffin or mini muffin pan)

Kids Tea Party Ideas

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